A Love Lesson from David’s Life

When you walk with God, there are no mistakes. Many people don’t realize that their biggest setbacks are the springboards to greater things.

God is always going to give you the things that will fit your life the best.

This is especially true in love and romance.

God allows us free will—we don’t have to make the choices He’d like for us to make, and thus, could end up in the wrong situation without initially intending it to go that way.

Think about David and Bathsheba. David ended up seeing Bathsheba bathing (which for men is like a rush of dopamine, and these things are best reserved for true love) and sent for word on who she was, even finding out she was the wife of Uriah the Hittite.

If David, a man who God states is a man after God’s own heart, can make this terrible mistake, don’t think you’re exempt from making these mistakes in your life as well.

I believe God redeemed that situation, making a crystal castle out of a washed-away sandcastle. Even the prophet Nathan told David to take comfort in his new wife—but there were real consequences to David’s actions that lasted for generations—he didn’t escape punishment.

The Torah curses us when we break it, though thankfully we have Christ’s more excellent ministry to catch us when we fall.

This was not God’s ideal situation, yet God redeemed it for His glory.

I’m not excusing David’s actions here. Adultery (and in this case, murder) are grievous sin. A righteous man will never seek to take another man’s woman. May it never be!

But it shows we can truly mess up when it comes to love. Solomon came out of this union, and eventually Christ, but don’t think God didn’t have a better way for this to happen if David hadn’t given in to his evil inclination.

The area of choosing a life partner is one where great care needs to be taken. This is the single most important decision in your life besides choosing to follow the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.

The Hebraic and Kabbalistic concept of soulmates is one that finds Scriptural support in multiple places in the Scriptures. God starts the creation of the current age of man with bringing Adam his match and intended.

Abraham’s servant was careful to ask God first before choosing a wife for Isaac further along in Genesis.

“The steps of a man are established by the LORD, when He delights in his way; though he fall, he shall not be cast headlong, for the LORD upholds his hand. I have been young, and now am old, yet I have not seen the righteous forsaken or his children begging for bread” (Psalm 37:23-25 [ESV]).

Your steps are ordered by God Himself, especially when you choose to follow His commandments.

Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. Meaning, regarding this subject, He is the way to your soulmate. He gives the truth about your soulmate. And because His choice is best, you will find life when you find your intended man or woman.

Want to find the right person? HE is the way, not manifesting it outside of His power to grant things, though words do have power in this universe.

All you have to do is ask God. He will answer your prayers if you keep His commandments, but only if you keep His commandments.

“If one turns away his ear from hearing the law, even his prayer is an abomination” (Proverbs 28:9 [ESV]).

This is the reason so many prayers go unanswered. Christians do not believe the Torah is useful today.

Paul isn’t saying what most people think he is saying when he speaks about the Law of God. The Bible warns us his letters are difficult to understand, meaning the common ideas people have aren’t correct. If they’re hard, why do Christians think it’s easy to hear him say the Law of God isn’t binding? Read his letters carefully, even Galatians, and you’ll notice he’s pro-Torah.

Now, I will say, God has the prerogative to answer any prayer He likes, even if someone doesn’t quite understand this idea of the Torah. He has infinite mercy to help those who seek Him.

Going to bars (while not a sin) likely isn’t the best way to meet your match. Dating apps are probably OK, as I don’t limit God. God usually does things in a grandiose way and beyond your expectations.
Trust Him with the way it unfolds and the timing. You might have to wait many years, but I promise it will be worth it!

There are so many factors to consider that He considers, since He is all-knowing. The man and woman’s gifts, their goals, their values, what occupation should be had when meeting them, etc.

Maybe you’re supposed to have a certain position first for the best result.

Let go of how you think it’s meant to unfold and trust the process. He knows better than you do.

If you don’t want to take the wrong path, trust God has it all figured out.

The grass might not be greener, but it sure is created by God.

He’s the one to go to for relationships, not secular sources and coaches, though I’m not saying those don’t have some value.

His match might make your head spin, or teach you to grow, but it is His matchmaking that is perfect.

Walk with Him and you won’t make mistakes in important areas if you seek to please Him.

Don’t be like the latter David and make a choice that had negative consequences. Choose the way of the David who could have killed Saul early but chose not to.

May you find your blessed match as soon as you can!
Shalom.